Rasulullah s.a.w. said: "There is no act that can gain the rewards more quickly than that of improving family ties and no sin worthy of his wrath as well as hasten his doom in the world and in the hereafter as that who broke the family relationships and committed injustices.’
Ibn Umar r.a. said: "One who the fear of God and established contact with one’s families will have one’s age be added to and one’s assets multiplied and will be loved by his family."
Abul Laits said: "If a person is close to his relatives, the familial relationship is in the form of guidance and visitations, should financial assistance be impossible then it suffice to provide physical assistance; Correspondence through mail although sufficient should distance be an issue, personal contact is more encouraged.
Anas said: "Three kinds of people who will lie under the shade of Allah on the Day of Judgement:
· Those who nurtured ties of kinship will have a blessed life, spacious grave and gainful sustenance.
· One who took care of woman with orphans left behind by her dead husband.
· People who prepared food and invited the orphans and the needy.
Al-Hasan said: "Rasulullah said:" The two strides of men loved by Allah : Footsteps towards the obligatory prayers and Footsteps towards silaturrahim with people you cannot marry.
The Five people who multiply their good deed and have gainful sustenance are:
1. People who always charity (a little or a lot)
2. People who nurture/maintain familial relationship.
3. People who are always pursue the Cause of Allah.
4. People who always performs ablution and not wasteful on water
5. People who are obedient to his parents.
When I was in financial distress through activities or events that were totally beyond my control, I normally called my parent to ask them whether I have done anything that was not too pleasant to their feelings. After a few times doing that, they came to notice my enquiries and asked my reason for it. I told them that my sustenance has been without much ‘barakah’ and many untoward events keep on happening to make me loose whatever little saving I have made.
I asked them for their forgiveness inspite of their insistence that I have not done anything wrong to both of them.
Only lately do I realize that someone close to my family has not been too kind to me when discussing my activities to my parents.
Here is a story that I treasured as the main characters are rather closely related to yours truly..
Once there were three siblings led by an eldest sister and two brothers. The two brothers have not been on good term and the elder brother has forbidden the younger brother from coming to his house. The elder brother has been a good man, well respected and well loved by all in the community unlike his younger brother.
When the elder brother was on his deathbed, the younger brother came to visit him daily but did not enter the house much to the indignant of his nieces and nephews. The sister did not come to visit as she was upset about the fact that the two brothers were not on speaking term.
The elder brother suffering prolonged for a few days and his children came to see their aunt thrice daily to persuade her to visit their father and forgive whatever mistakes he has committed to her. It was only at the insistence/persuasion of her own daughters that the elder sister changed her mind and visited her sick brother.
She has, however, insisted that the elder brother forgive his brother and that he be allowed to visit him on his deathbed prior to him speaking to her. When her condition was fulfilled, it came to note that she was not happy with the sick brother for he has not visit her for quite a long time even though the distance between their houses was less than 200 meters and she was quite unhappy with him over a lot of other small things and events.
She then told the crowd that she was not keen to forgive her brother even after a few hours of persuasion from the children of her brother.
On seeing that her uncle was having a lot of difficulties, the daughter of the eldest sister persuaded her mother to give her forgiveness to her dying brother. After about an hour of much crying and grieving, the sister relented and forgave her brother. Few minutes later, the brother has breathed his last much to the relief of everyone that were present.
I am of the opinion there are two things of note between the three main characters:
1. Silaturrahim has not been fostered/ nurtured/ established.
2. Eldest sister replaced the mother that has passed away and her pleasure can amount to as much as that of the mother.
May you have many nice and rewarding days ahead.