Saturday, July 23, 2011

Slanderous joke

Al Quran states "And why did you not, when you heard it, say "It is not right of us to speak of this: Glory to God, this is a most serious slander". (24:16)

The Prophet said:"If the Lord should protect a man from the mischief of two things, he shall enter Paradise: firstly, from that which is between his two jaws [i.e. his tongue], and secondly, from that which is between his two loins."

The Prophet said: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last day, let him either speak good or keep silent.”

The picture(a painting) is from Google entitled "Slander Detail by Botticelli"

I am blessed with the bibik of my SIL who came to my house yesterday. She has been upset the whole of yesterday and was more than RM100 poorer for it and not to mention the fact that she nearly lost her husband as well.
Do not ask me how (there is a high probability bibik may have dialled wrongly) but for the past 10 days, most of the time she dialled her husband’s hand-phone number there was a lady answering the phone at the other end. When bibik asked why was she answering the phone of bibik‘s husband.. the lady nonchalantly told bibik that “he had been staying at her place for weeks”.
I do not get the exact detail of what ensued .. I gathered that bibik was informed that the lady is eighteen and the man (bibik’s husband?) is her husband as well and she gave her home address in Puchong, which coincidently the place where bibik’s husband is currently working.
That’s it.. bibik borrowed some RM200 from my SIL called her husband (somehow he was at the end of the line that time) told him that she is going to “ganyang” (go and destroy) the lady at that Puchong address. The husband frantically enlisted the help of his cousin and reached the house some 30 minutes before bibik reached the house in a taxi.
Before entering the house, Bibik in no uncertain term has issued her ultimatum.. if what that lady said is true.. bibik’s husband has to leave bibik immediately. On giving salam and entering the house bibik was in for a surprise, the lady in question is about eighty and has an equally old husband at her side.. When Bibik asked her why did she said bibik’s husband has been sleeping there.. the lady apologised and said she was only joking, bibik husband has never been to the house etcetera.. ;((
Again I do not get the full detail, but bibik stormed out of the house after a while and left her husband and his cousin in a hurry. She seek refuge in my house to avoid her husband as her husband is familiar with my SIL and he has been reluctant to visit her at my home..
The lady might be irritated to receive so many unwanted calls from bibik but to lead her to think that bibik’s husband is also her husband and that he has been sleeping at her place for weeks is a rather irresponsible action and slanderous.. Non?!

Have a good Sunday and week ahead


Cat-from-Sydney said...

Ayoh Wang,
That's not a joke, that was mean. Humans!!! Some people don't even feel guilty doing it. har har har *evil laughs*

Wan Sharif said...

Derest CfS,
It is sad to note that we are taking slander and backstabbing too lightly.. as for joking there are definitely some guidelines in Islam.. you and other readers might like to have a look at

The Tea Drinker said...

i remember reading that u have to be truthful even while joking. i guess this is one of the many reasons.

anyway, for an 80 year old... her humour hasnt mature much.

Lili said...

Salam Ayoh Wang,

Yeah, that is no joke when you irritate people like that, no? How could some people, let alone an eighty year old, be so blunt. Saya kesianlah pada orang macam ni... yang menyusahkan orang lain. *Sigh* But then again, who am I to judge...

Nin said...

What a mean joke to come from an 80-yr-old. I'd give her an earful, if not a knock on the head, if I was bibik. And claim my spent RM100.

Kama At-Tarawis said...

that was a very mean thing to do. as an 80 year-old, she should have known better. awat la lagu tu..

Wan Sharif said...

Lili dearest,
It also escaped me how someone can do something that mean.. saying things that can lead to a broken marriage, not to mention loss of sleep.. maybe that the reason why slander is considered more sinful than a murder.
May Allah bless us and my blog's other readers the wisdom not to slander and backbite others..

Wan Sharif said...

Dearest Nin,
Wow.. I can expect someone to give an earful for what happen... a knock on head :) and to claim the loss... sound like a lawyer.. but honestly the damage done is more than that.. the time taken to straightened the things, the heartache caused to bibik and her spouse.. I agree with you on a hard knock on the head to jolt an 80 years old to her good sense..
Take good care of your new bundle of joy and take an extremely good care of yourself as well ;)).

Wan Sharif said...

Dearest Tea Drinker,
You are right about being truthful even while joking.
I could not for the life of me..figure out what that 80 years old lady think when she did what she did.. anger, "padan muka si indonesian ni", irritated with bibik's calls etc.. but to be slanderous in her comments was totally uncalled for.. I believed she was not aware the seriousness of slanders..:((

Wan Sharif said...

Puteri Kama Dearest,
People tend to think highly of their action.. that being the case, slanderous comments coming out from an 80 years old can only meant ignorance on the seriousness of making slanderous and backbiting comments.. that said it can also meant total "could not care less attitude" or just bad intention.
May Allah bless us all and hinder us from committing such a serious offence... sokmo sokmo

Al-Manar said...

Ayah Wang,

Betulke ni? Takut buak buak cerita ja nak main main belung perosa.
Kalu Ayah Wang ada masa tulong kat blog saya sebetar. Ada nak mintok jawab komeng Ninot sikit.

Wan Sharif said...

Abang Hassan,
Cerita Ayoh Wang selalu nye cerita benar..
I have a helper at home who refused to go back to her home even though we specifically told her that her service was required for my late mother in-law only.. Now that my MIL is no longer around ..we do not need her service but she pleaded for a year stay and my better half relented.. Bibik came to my house and stayed with our helper ;)).
The story is put up to remind me and my children to be careful with our tongues.;((

Pat said...

A perfect example that age does not automatically bestow us wisdom. A truly unkind thing to do, and on what level did she think it was funny?

But, this question bugs me: How come the husband's phone was at old 80's home, and so often? She has a daughter, or a grand-daughter, peut-ĂȘtre?

ninotaziz said...

Some questions beg to be answered...but we shall leave the story here and let Bibik have some peace.

Much ado about ado.

Wan Sharif said...

Pat Dearest,
As the story was told to my other half and she did not make it her habit to query the logic of things..
After the event Bibik was of opinion that there were cross lines involved.. I am of opinion, she memorise her husband's number and punch it wrongly (somehow repetitively) and get that 80 year old ladies handphone.. plausible??
I do not normally get involved with the helper as wrong words here and there can signal a tsunami of sort ;)..but then such a slanderous story need to be jotted down to remind me of how dangerous tongues can be!
On ne sais pas s'il ya une petite fille a la maison de cette dame! ;))

Wan Sharif said...

Ninot dearest,
Agreed on questionable data :).
Recorded as a reminder that short nonchalant but slanderous comments can be a very painful and expensive experience to the recipient..

Trying To Be Muslim.. said...

Bismillah,...I guess that is why....silence is golden! Speak when benefits or stay quite.....

Thank u for the sharing...

Wan Sharif said...

Ayu Safieza,
Thank you for the visit.. your comment reminds me of a hadith...
Rasul Allah(pbuh) said, "Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day (of Judgment) should not harm his neighbor. Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day should host his guest generously. And anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day should say what is good or keep quiet." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 47

R.A.S said...

Ayoh Wang,
There are several things I will NEVER joke, health, marriage and money!! NEVER..because to me these are very sensitive issues to other people! How could an 80 year old do such a thing..bah ...and they say my mouth is sharp!

Lee said...

Hi Wan Sharif, itu betul chari pasal. Luckily she checked first, or asked questions first.
Others might action first, ask questions later.
Very interesting post.
Have a nice day.

Wan Sharif said...

R.A.S dear,
Glad to know that you never joke on those sensitive issues. I believe that 80 year old may not be aware of the seriousness of her action.. if you tell you relative to stop back-biting when they are in the middle of their back-biting sessions.. their answers would be "we are not back-biting.. we are just telling the truth about that guy" :((

Wan Sharif said...

Dearest Brother Lee,
You are right and I am grateful that bibik asked questions first.. should bibik be separated from her husband due to that slanderous "joke" .. I do not know what what would happen to the marriage of their daughter planned to be held after the Raya :(
Keep a song in your heart, stay young and jovial.. sokmo